Do's and Don'ts

New relationships are full of excitment, mystery, and fun. It also sets the course for the rest of the relationship. It is always one or the other person who is always in control. I am no expert and this is my personal opinion from what I have seen so far, but these tips do work.

1. Once you do get a boyfriend, please do not throw your old life away. Keep your friends, do not ditch your girls for the girls night out jsut because he called up saying he wants to do something. Stick to the plans that you have already made.

2. Do not become possesive. Do not assume that every weekend you will spend with your boyfriend, therefore do not be afraid to make plans of your own before talking to him first. Remember, you are nor married, so have your own life.

3. If he doesn't call when he is suppose to, do not freak out. When he does call, do not rush to pick up. Take your time. When you do talk to him, show no attitude. That will make you different from other girls.

4. If he cancels on you, keep your cool. Yes, you might be boiling inside with questions and suspicions. The best thing you can do is say ok and that's it. Do tell him though that next time you need more of a notice if something does come up. That will make him question why and how you keep so calm.

5. Do not try to impress him. Too much is too much. Why do you think the cute guys end up with so so looking girls? Because they have respect for themseves.

Remember, you can not act like your world would end if you would lose him. He has to feel that you are just fine with him or without him, so if something does go wrong, you will not be hesitant to let him go. He can not sense fear that you are afraid of losing him. I'll post some more tips in the future... If anybody has questions or want to add something please feel free;)

I just wanted to add that the biggest mistake girls can make is jump into a new relationship right after ending one. It is soooo important that we take time to re-discover ourselves and to heal properly. If we just jump from one relationship into another we will find ourselves dealing with the same insecurities and issues. The best thing to do is know what you want before you enter a serious relationship. So girlies....before you consider the do's and dont's of a new relationship, make sure you are ready for one. I feel as the easiest way to deal with a break up is to have a rebound, but the best thing to do is to be hurt, deal with it and heal from it. Just a thought...